There are beliefs that barren people have no mercy towards young children and simillar accusations are also leveled against nuns who devout themselves to Christ; that they don’t have affection for children because they don’t give birth. Igihe.com’s Diana Mutimura made inquiries to get reactions for such allegations.
One couple which lives in kanombe, a Kigali city suburb who preferred to remain anonymous has spent five years in their marriage without children.
“We have no children but love them and we believe that God is there and when our time comes, we are going to have children too. We already have two children we adapted and they are a joy to our family” a female intimated.
Barrenness among males and females might have different causes and reasons, but thorough test and treatments could certainly cure any infertility issues they have.
To diagnose what causes infertility, both women and men should undergo tests which will help to identify which cause or reason makes them unable to conceive Dr. Habinshuti Gaspard a gynecologist at Kigali hospital(CHUK) explains.
“What causes infertility in the person may be known in this specimen. If white blood cells are present on the semen, then this may be another reason for infertility on the side of men because white blood cells on the semen indicate infection” the Doctor says.
The specialist continues to clarify on the women’s side saying when it comes to determining women’s infertility, complication comes in because women take long.
“A physical test such as Pap smear or gram stain may reveal whether or not they have an infection that could be the cause for the sperm not to get to the ovum in the fallopian tubes”.
This infection he says could also cause scarring in the pelvis that might be preventing any ovulation and fertilization. An irregular menstrual cycle could also indicate infertility Problems or rare ovulation, caused by a hormonal disparity forestalling girls from getting pregnant.
He goes to explain that if males and females already know the main reason they’re infertile, then it will be better to find the correct sort of barrenness treatments, procedures, and medications that could help them get fertile.
The doctor says there are some instances where males and females are naturally barren in instances where they were born lacking some body parts which enable them to produce.
“For example a girl can be born with no fallopian tube and the family did not know from the beginning hence hindering her from giving birth”.
Psychologically, the doctor explains that infertility and love for children are two things different because there are some families which have children but they don’t love them. In most cases men are the one who are always impolite towards their children.
“Who loves young children more than the nuns and the catholic fathers? So that mentality is not collect because love for young children is a person’s heart.”
The doctor ended by saying that, it is possible for infertile couples to conceive after discovering the cause of infertility and enjoying relaxed moments in order to reduce stresses which is among the cause of infertility.
He says exercising or walking in the parks could give the couples the kind of relaxation their bodies need to provide healthy eggs and sperms. A carefully balanced diet and regular eating of vitamins increases their chances of getting pregnant.
Marie Chantal Kabagwira of St. Famille Catholic Church with her fellow nuns told Igihe they do not agree with the idea that they don’t love children because they believe whoever wants to go to heaven should be as innocent as young children.
“We love children because they are angles on earth and for us if we don’t give birth it does not mean that we hate them, that means that we can be doing what is centrally with God’s wish” kabagwira says.
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